Self-Abandonment || Thoughts of the Day

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Recently, I am noticing so many cases around which made me writing this post. Obviously this pandemic situation has affected many people's lives, not only financially but mentally also. I am also noticing the crisis around whenever I go through the update news. I know many people don't like to talk about this type of topics but I think we all should discuss such topics.

From the past few weeks, I am continuously getting sad news, someone committed suicide, someone tried to kill themselves, someone was having a rough time, someone was in the hospital due to COVID and many more. I can't imagine how much rough time people are having right now but I am really grateful that I am alive still and healthy too...


Self-abandonment is a phase of life where people feel low, worthless, useless, and try to hide parts of themselves behind the wall. I personally think this can be the initial stage of frustration or depression, I might be wrong because I am not a doctor. If someone is having a hard time trusting themselves, it also can be considered as self-abandonment. Basically, in the self-abandonment phase, people lose confidence and start doubting themselves and their intuitions.


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Understanding Self-abandonment :

I am relating this term with this picture, self-isolated life, one feels deprived of the society thinking that their feelings don't matter and they are continuing diminishing their thoughts. They go through some kind of mental trauma and just stop seeing the beauty of life...

Research says that self-abandonment starts from childhood, mostly from parents or other influencers who didn’t meet emotional and/or physical needs in childhood, the behavior of these people can abandon a person emotionally or physically. As a result, the individual feels unlovable and unworthy. In fact, when they grow up and face situations in life, they also feel the same...


I can give you an example of my life... Somehow I was also felt abandoned because of my skin tone. I suffered hugely because of this complex thought and lost confidence at some point in life. I carried this entire feeling so far because somehow I was mistreated and unconsciously a negative thought grew inside me. I felt abandoned from society and unlovable because of skin tone issues...


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Now the question is :

Is it possible to stop abandoning ourselves:


I think yes, of course, it is possible to stop abandoning ourselves, and abandoned wounds can be healed...But now the question is how???

First and foremost, believe in yourself, trust yourself, and start building a healthy relationship with your own personality. This is the first step that I have taken for myself, I learned to accept my skin color, who I am, and what is my identity...


The second thing I feel, to build confidence, and stand up for yourself. Because of a lack of confidence, we feel abandoned and we can't stand up for our words. We feel that our opinions, our feelings are valueless so that's why it's important to treat yourself with compassion and stand up for yourself.


Third and last part is we should give ourselves opportunities and allow ourselves to express our feelings. I know many people don't like to express themselves and keep their feelings inside them. As an introvert, I also do the same but I also speak and express my opinion where needed...


My words might not be clear to you, maybe you are thinking why and what she is telling but I personally feel that this type of topic should be spoken or should be out...

Maybe we will able to save someone's life...


“Though self-abandonment is something most people struggle with in some way or another, motherhood is a breeding ground for this insidiously self-destructive behavior. From the time children are born, their needs are intense, relentless, and literally screamed in our faces. Luckily for them (and the human race), we are biologically wired to respond to their needs, even when it means setting aside our own. While our nurturing, self-sacrificial instincts are beautiful and life-preserving, they’re also a fast track to burnout, resentment, exhaustion, and destruction, if we’re not careful. It’s natural to minimize our needs in the interest of the beautiful beings we love, but it’s not natural that we’re raising our children in isolation and that the bulk of their needs are falling on one person instead of a tribe of extended family members and friends. This, and other profoundly affecting gaps within our culture, makes self-awareness and self-nurturing that much more essential. Unfortunately for some of us, it isn’t until we’re so emotionally or physically wrecked by our self-abandonment that we realize how disconnected from crucial parts of ourselves we really are.”
Beth Berry, Motherwhelmed


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i guess many people in developed countries have the first experience of a possible deadly risk taking presence in their daily life. for earlier generations, it was very normal to live alongside deadly diseases and infections, but we lost that feeling or awareness. so i guess the situation is too heavy for many people and the outcome is what you describe, maybe?

I think you are right...

Your posts are part now of my everyday... thanks for caring and giving it the time!

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